Boudoir Photography and Your Sex Life
Yes the two can go hand in hand with each other. It is amazing. This is why, when a woman is looking and feeling good to herself, she is happier and happiness equals sharing the happiness. When a woman is feeling blah, rocking her sweats and hasn't done her make-up in a week/month(s etc well, you can bet her sex life isn't all that great either. Sure she may do it for her partner, but enjoying it? Probably not-its ok ladies you aren't the only one out there, and you aren't alone in this. I talk to women on a daily basis about their bodies and life and most certainly about what is going on in their sex life-it happens when you are talking about the reason you are doing a boudoir photo shoot, and it happens when you are simply talking to other women.
We as women, are needy creatures. Emotionally, we need to feel that love, and while our partners love the hell out of us, we forget to love on ourselves. That is where a photo shoot comes into play. I know, you have your skeptics calling bullshit immediately, but hear me out. When you try something new and exciting, and step out of your comfort zone-no matter what it is, you feel excited, and just talking about it after gets you excited-like talk with your hands excited-(not the other way you dirty perverts!) You smile and you want to tell people about your experience. you are on almost a high from it. Its the same with your photo shoot. Most women aren't running to phone going, I need to take off my clothes for a stranger right now! I said most, some of you are! Which is totally awesome when that happens. For the majority of you, stripping down to bra and panties or your birthday suit scares the living hell out of you! Am I right? It doesn't matter if you are a size 0 or a size 50, taking our clothes off, with lights on and someone looking at us is frightening and simply put, YIKES!
Now that we got the fear thing settled, yep totally normal there too, its also one of the most confident boosting things you do in life. Seriously. No matter what photographer you go to for your shoot, you will be nervous, think about turning around and want to guzzle your glass of champagne the minute you sit in make-up. You will be fine.
You are going to get into your first outfit and be like, what in hell am I doing?! then, you will sit down with your wine or champagne or water, start getting your hair and make up done, talking and laughing. When its all done, you will look back into that mirror and feel beautiful. Great make up and hair, are such a key to feeling good-is it necessary no, but it makes such a remarkable difference every time-immediately. Then your nerves will come back, and you will get nervous again. The clicks of the camera will put you on edge, but then you are being coached int poses, laughing when your tossing your gorgeous hair all over the place or jumping up and down and acting a fool, forgetting how nervous you were 5 minutes ago. The shoot goes on and you change, your whole perception changes in that 2-4 hours. By the time you leave, you're smiling, still looking fabulous and you are off to take on the day/night.
How does this help your sex life? Because that feeling of accomplishment when you are done. the thought that you just did something you were so nervous to do, and how amazing you look and feel right now as you sit in your car and sigh a big ass sigh, puts a smile on your face that shines brighter than anything you can imagine. It helps because of confidence.
That smile, will continue to spread on your face each time you think of your day, and when you go back for your reveal and see your images, and when you get that album or box of stunning matted images, you get to relive it. That confidence gained translates to some very steamy nights ahead.
Confidence is sexy, confidence translates to sex. That is the bottom line. If you want to liven up your sex life, and push your boundaries, have a sexy boudoir photoshoot done and give the gift of you to your partner. The gift of being confident to yourself. It is amazing what you can accomplish when you stop staring at your feet as you walk and when you start looking up. Its amazing what a confidence boost can do for you, and it will 100% reflect back into your sex life. It can be completely life changing. I have had client tell me it saved their marraige. Literally! (One of the best things I have ever been told as a boudoir photographer) Try it out, you'll see.
If you are someone's partner that read this, think about it. When is the best sex? It is the best when your partner has had a great day and is feeling sexy, and is feeling good. Its fun for everyone involved. Want to make it extra exciting? Have a couples session done! Yep you heard me, both of you stripping down, being very intimate-without getting too intimate until afterwards at least, and really getting to be with your partner. That will take things to a new level. That is how you add some passion back into your sex life, and that is how it all comes together.
Always with Love
Lady J
